I remember my first experience. I was nervous at the thought of sharing heavy emotions with a stranger. My baggage was too heavy to toss on family and even my closest friends, yet still too personal to let an outsider in on it.

“Man up!” “Suck it up and move on.” “You better not cry!” We hear these phrases in our homes, on social media, and even our friends tell us to “drop it and let it go.”

Can you please stop asking me what’s next? Some of us who graduate from college have no clue what’s next. That place I interned at all year, yeah — they didn’t offer me the job.